Signs of a bad marriage

From The Sun Journal:

DEAR ABBY: Two weeks ago, my husband let it slip that he wants a divorce. Since we were married, his personality has changed completely. He is not the man I married.

I would like to pass along some tips for anyone considering marriage, and share some of the bright-red flags I chose to ignore.

You probably cannot find flags any redder.

I Wanted To Kill Her, It Was Crazy, Such A Small Thing And I Could Have Strangled Her!

By Linda Bretherton

I wanted to KILL her !

As an Ayurvedic healer and creation psychotherapist I work with people who want help to create something new and different in their lives, my methods are direct and guarantee shifts.
Most people come to me because they have tried other ‘therapists’ and ‘got no where’

I have been working with John who has continual arguments with his wife that has become a regular occurrence. He is depressed, sick and tired that nothing changes, they just blow up have another major row, and nothing moves on.

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What To Do If Your Spouse Won’t Go To Counseling

By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

divorce3″What should I do if my spouse won’t go to counseling?”

I often hear this from my clients. What are they really saying with this question?

Generally, they are saying something like:

“My unhappiness is coming from my spouse’s behavior,” or “The problems in our marriage are my spouses’ fault,” or “My spouse needs to change for me to be okay.”

As long as you believe any of these statements, then you will be focused on your spouse’s issues rather than on your own issues.

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Marriage is not for wimps

Leona Boey at AsiaOne

SO, AFTER eight years of playing a happy English family, Madonna and Guy Ritchie are going their separate transatlantic ways.

Apparently, one of the reasons the marriage broke up was that the Material Girl wouldn’t share her mountains of cash, leaving “poor” Guy to foot all the bills – lock, stock and barrel. Or was it the other way around?

You’d think that with US$525 million (S$770 million) in her bank and US$35 million in his, there’d be no need to quarrel over who paid for popcorn at the movies.

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Dealing with threats to a marriage

Adia Ukoyen at The Sunday Tribune:

In every marriage, there are times when the partners are tested and required to stop and re-define their relationship, to look and see what is going on, decide what it is they need from one another and what it is that they can or will provide. This is a process that one may have to go through many times during the course of a long relationship.

Before dealing with specific trouble spots, it is crucial to understand that the central factor, which causes difficulty for many, is change itself.

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Loosing Sight Of The Partnership Is A Common Marriage Problem

by Terry Ross

Marriage just isnt like that, marriage is a two way street, couples are supposed to work together, support each other, respect each other and resolve any problems that life might throw at them, together. Yet its really common for partners to just go ahead and do whatever they want without giving any thought what their spouse or family might think.

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Marriage Problems: Common, But Never Simple

Iza del Carmen, MomAuthority.com:

It is a scary thought – the idea that maybe tomorrow one of you will just come up to the other and say, “I think don’t want to be married to you anymore.”

One may think they’re ready for it, but the truth is, they never are. They see it coming from a distance, but unfortunately, they were too preoccupied with the problem, they forgot to look for a solution.

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