One door leading to another

Jose Lopez-Rodriguez’s wife caught him being unfaithful.  Hardly a matter for law enforcement officials right? Not in this instance.

After a Relationship Breakup, Violence Can Continue

From Psych Central:

New research suggests that even after a relationship ends, men can continue the cycle of violence toward women, especially when they have one or more children together.

Children may be especially vulnerable by witnessing the violence between their parents, more so than previously thought.

The findings are based upon doctoral work conducted by Solveig Vatnar, a researcher and psychologist who recently defended her dissertation entitled An Interactional Perspective on Help-Seeking Women Subject to Intimate Partner Violence at the University of Oslo.

Is there a surprise here? This is the kind of thing has been known for years.  If Vatnar needed concrete proof this woman could have helped her out.

Controlling, Out Of Control

Karen Florin, The Day:

In the midst of the hostage crisis in South Windsor, Richard J. Shenkman told a police negotiator that if anyone entered the house where he was holding his ex-wife captive they would have a “Mexican standoff,” where no one would emerge a winner.

Over the past three years, the 60-year-old Shenkman, once a prominent advertising and public relations executive, appears to have devoted himself to ensuring a lose-lose outcome in his divorce with Nancy P. Tyler. He told Tyler repeatedly that they would both end up with nothing when it was over.

It’s intense.

Spotting Warning Signs in Your New Relationship

Addison Kross

Learning to spot any signs of particularly bad behavior before you have allowed yourself to become too attached to, even fall in love with, a new romantic interest may save you a great deal of effort and heartache

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4 Steps to Help Heal a Broken Heart

By Mary Bush

Heartbreak is a pain like any other. It is an emotional pain so bottomless that it can feel like a physical blow. When you have a pain like this one, all you want is for the deep ache to go away. As much as I’d like to advise differently, there is no band aid for a broken heart. Though it sounds clich, time is the remedy needed for you to truly heal from such a deep, wrenching pain. In time, this pain will go away. Between now and then, however, following a few basic tips might be able to make the difference in how you are feeling.

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Man claims his incarceration aiding wife in divorce proceedings

Umm…I’m not sure that he gets it. From Carl Hessler Jr. at The Mercury

A Lower Merion chiropractor accused of trying to kill his estranged wife claims the woman is trying to keep him behind bars so she can get a “leg up” in their divorce proceedings.

Alan E. Kushner, 58, formerly of Righters Ferry Road, a separated father of two adult sons, made the claim in papers filed in Montgomery County Court in which he asked a county judge to overturn previous judicial rulings that denied him bail. Two judges previously agreed with prosecutors that Kushner’s bail should be denied because the safety of his estranged wife cannot be guaranteed if he’s released.

You’re on trial for attempted murder but your biggest complaint is not that you may be innocent but your estranged wife is getting ahead of you when it comes to the divorce proceedings.

No…I don’t think he gets it.

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Abusive Relationship- Cloaked Under the Guise of Love

By Bonnie Moss

Statistics show that over 90% of known cases of abuse are women.”But he loves me” is often a justification of  staying in an abusive relationship.

A story that would break anyone’s heart is this woman who suffered physical abuse and somehow, a bouquet of flowers after such episodes seemed to ease the hurt, the pain. She felt guilty. It was her fault. So she stayed on. Until one day, there was no need for flowers- she had no another day to face.

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Emotional Abuse – The Warning Signs

By Sarah Good

“He doesn’t hit me, so there is no abuse in my relationship.” There is a lot more to domestic violence than just battery. The emotional wounds can run very deep, and actually take longer to heal than the physical ones.

In this article I refer to the abuser as “he,” because most reported cases of domestic violence the male is the abuser (but it does sometimes happens the other way). I will focus on the typical signs of emotional, verbal, physical, and sexual abuse, and how to identify if you are in an abusive relationship.

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Why Doesn’t She Leave Him?

by Annie Kaszina

It’s very easy to look, from the outside, at another woman’s unhappy relationship and ask: ‘Why on earth does she stay with him?’

It’s especially easy if the man in question exhibits the subtle charm of Attila the Hun – or the social graces of Fat Bast*rd in Austin Powers. Some abusive men parade their hostility and prejudices as proudly as if they were merits.

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Dating someone with an addiction

Samantha Brett @ AskSam:

They say love is like a drug, able to provide so much tantalising pleasure that when it exits from your life you’re bound to suffer from drug-withdrawal-like symptoms. Or so I expounded on yesterday’s blog.

So why then are so many people these days obsessed with having to add a mood-enhancing stimulant into their loved-up picture?

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